One day I took my daughters to the park, It was beautiful out. The birds were singing, the wind was fresh, the girls were so happy and that made me smile.
I sat down while the girls eagerly ran to play and after a few minutes a mom came to the bench and asked if she could sit next to me, I gladly said yes. After a few minutes sitting there on her phone, her daughter said ” Mom please come play, you are always on your phone. You never play with me!”.
The mom didn’t even look up at her daughter.
I look around at what might as well have been a cell phone store, only one mom wasn’t on her phone… you’re thinking great!! No, she was on her iPad. There was no more happy parents playing, no more children seeking their parents for fun, no more interaction. Why are we doing this to our children? What in the world? I had never noticed it like this before.
The holy spirit convicts us of different things, its not the same for everyone at the same time but eventually the goal is for all of us to be ONE spirit with ONE mind to be pure and holy, for God is holy. .One goal.
All the times I ignored my daughters to reply to a childlike facebook argument, to see who is less intelligent by fighting through the internet ( I won most times, sad huh?), the time I took to look up useless things, the times I didn’t pay attention to their needs because at the moment technology and a piece of PLASTIC was more important that what God had given me to be an example to. That broke me. I know people who don’t have trouble with facebook/tv/technology and are rarely ever on it but for me that wasn’t the case with FB and internet use. I hate TV. So I know this isn’t for everyone. But if you find yourself in my shoes, take action. You’ll thank God later and so will your family.
As she gave me a hug, I felt like it was time, this was confirmation from what had witnessed earlier that day, to let go off the things that are taking time and real experience’s away from my family, myself and most importantly God. Who say’s we have tomorrow? Is it not God who gives it? This is how I was going to spend time with my daughter’s while awake and while I put them to rest? The fist thing they see is me on the phone, the last thing they see is me..on my phone. I can now say that for the past 7 months (my husband has done the same) and we both now sing our daughters to bed, without them asking for a hug and no phone, not even in the same room. For tomorrow is not promised and we gave out best that day and night to them and each other. As a married couple we have grown so much since deciding to turn off our tv and phones. We have grown to love the time we have today, that night.
I found out who really missed me once no one could post ” Lets hangout, I miss you” on my Facebook wall, but most importantly time with God. I felt a big warm feeling in my heart giving up all these things and I gained so much more. The thought that my daughters had to see their mom on Fb and texting more than seeing her help others or even doing something productive makes me sad. I was to busy keeping busy that I was blinded to what was really important. Romans 12: 2 “ Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will”. I know that the verse is much deeper that this shallow stuff but I applied it to even the smallest areas of my life and its amazing how true it is. You’d be surprised at the reactions I get when people find out I just started a FB again after deleting it for a couple years, or I call them to say hi or to show up at their door to interact. All I can say is I am free of a burden. I’ve learned how to use media, I am free from something that is normal in society that we don’t even realize how bad it truly might be. I am free to run around in the park with my ladies, to make memories and keep them in my heart and not a status.
I will never claim to be better, I have gotten so much better about this and everyday I struggle less and less to not be on my phone for unplanned reasons. My family hasn’t been been the same since we have decided to do this and that alone let’s me know it was the right thing, even when people did call me crazy and extremist. #rebel haha