One way I choose to respect my husband. 

I was talking to a parent outside of the school, waiting for our children to come out and we had talked before in many occasions so we were pretty open to talk. The conversations were flat and pretty “normal”. “How are you”, “how is work”, “what are your plans for today”, pretty normal questions that dragged is to multiple different conversations ending in topics about diapers and dogs.

This particular afternoon, while waiting I walked up to the little circle of moms and greeted them, not knowing what they were taking about, I politely stood a side and waited to be introduced to the topic.

“UGH, I just want to lick him up and down”, one said.

“Oh if my husband looked like him I would just die”! The other exclaimed as she bit her lip.

“Sexiest man alive, I would leave my husband for him any day”. The lady I knew said.

I defenitly DIDN’T want to be part of this conversation I said to myself.

Just when I was walking away, they asked who I thought was the sexiest man alive. 

I stood there and I knew right away I was in a position where I would be looked down upon.

“Chris Nelson”, I said with a smile.

“Who’s that?”, said the one biting her lip, now confused.

“My husband”. I said with a smile. 

They all looked at me like I was an idiot.

I know what you are thinking, couldn’t you just tell the truth and not try to make them look dumb or make yourself seem better? 

The truth is, to me my husband is the most attractive man. That’s no lie. To be honest with you guys I  actually find it disturbing that women think this way.

Now, I do think other man are handsome. 9 out of 10 times they are 60 and up and it’s their virtues not looks that make me think that, or its my daddy. I’m no saint.

I suppose it was my upbringing, maybe it was that I never heard my mother use the term sexy to describe my father. Maybe it was because the same way I wouldn’t want my husband disrespecting me, by fantasizing and drooling over ANOTHER woman, I see that I don’t let those feelings root in my heart. I’m not “insecure ” I know my worth and so does my husband and because I know my worth I want my husband to know his, with my actions and words, I show him how much he is worth to me.

The word of God speaks so clearly on lustful thoughts. It’s a sin. I’m not judging you, I’m saying what the word of God calls it- sin. Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman {man} with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her {him} in his {her} heart. This goes for women too. This does not exclude us ladies.

We cry for respect from men, but we as women are just as corrupt and can be just as sinful. No one is immune to sexual immorality. How can I desire another woman’s husband? Or a man who’s not my own?  That’s just wrong! Even worse to wish you could have a sexual encounter with them. That blows my mind, not because I’m “holy” but because I see:

•My husband wake up every morning early to work for our family.

•He gives our girls unconditional love.

•He hold me when I feel worthless.

•He works two jobs at times to support us.

•When he comes late at night, he expects love and my warm hugs.

•He has given all his time and love to us.

•His eyes red, from little sleep.

•His feet sore from walking all day.

•His body tired from 18 hour days.

How could I sit there and talk about how much better another man is, that I don’t even know personally, when I know my husband sacrafices out of love, I can say this because I know him personally. 

How can I belittle my husband for a man who’s has not sacrificed anything for me or our family and most defenitly not see my worth. 

How could I, even think about another man? How can I disrespect the man who vowed to love me and hold me, the man who works long hours and gave up his youth to raise children with me? HOW?!  I hear far to many women talk about it like it’s nothing and worse Christian women who claim to love their husbands while adulterating in their hearts. That’s not love. 

It is a big deal to God how we see our husband and how we talk about them. 

I will not support watching movies like “Magic Mike”, movies that support the idea that men are to be “sexy” and “for my pleasure” that lower my standards to believe other man are desirable and not who I have given my life too. If you’re thinking it’s just a movie, how blind we have become because we must watch what we fill our memory bank with, because thoughts become actions. God commands us to watch our eyes from lustful things. Matthew 6:22-23 “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness! That includes porn, erotic novels, erotic movies, memes with nudity and “harmless talk”. ALL OF IT FLOWS FROM OUR HEARTS. All of it matters to God.  Psalm 119:37 Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways. We live in a couture that says, it’s normal to watch these things. It’s not.

My husband,  is worth more than Mike, my husband might not look like him (6 packs have always reminded me of constipated poop anyway) but the body my husband has, is one of a working man. Not a vain man. 

My husband, is worth my respect. How I talk about him. 

My husband, is worth more than stupid words flowing from my mouth without control or understanding. 

My husband is a man of God and there is nothing in this world more attractive to me than when my husband, can bend his knees to the almighty God. 

I love my husband. I will show it with passion. I will show it with my words. With what I decide to watch on tv. Who I decide to listen to and how I speak about him. Let us show our husband the respect they deserve. 

  My choice since 07′.

8 thoughts on “One way I choose to respect my husband. ”

  1. This is one of my top favorite posts! I’ll never understand how women can openly lust and droll over another man that’s not their spouse, and even worse, when their husband is aware of it and just laughs it off. Even when i was just dating my husband, my friends would show me pics of other guys and it bothered me so much, no one compares to my honey! lol.


  2. Beautiful. I love reading your blogs. We are to submit to our husbands as we are to Christ. There should be respect and sin begins in our thoughts. from the overflow of our heart the mouth speaks. Very wise of you Ana to be cautious about what you say and think because as a Christian everything you do should glorify God. By respecting your husband and being cautious with what you say you are glorifying God. May God bless your marriage and beautiful family ❤️️


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