Being a SAHM mean I get two choices. I say only two because I have found there is no three. I could be wrong though.
One, I can glorify God in my calling.
Two, I can do what Ana wants to do.
I’ve tried both.
Sadly choosing #2 is what led me to know there was a #1.
So, I know you’ve probably read like 638,649,936 posts on this topic. BUT I’m so happy to share this, I hope it can be the 638,649,937th post you concider.
Here we go: 5 ways God has taught me to serve my working husband. And 5 disclaimers. .
- I get up early to make him a fresh breakfast everyday.
Disclaimer: this took me 7 years to do… I would make him breakfast but not with love and I would always make it a big deal to him… Look dude I’m up and you don’t deserve it and I’m way tired for this kinda attitude. Not how I would want to serve the Lord. Yikes! Then I read this:
Proverbs 31:13-19 “She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.”
This challenged me physically and spiritually!
2. When he gets home I take his lunch box and give him a teenagers kiss (if you know what I mean)
Disclaimer: now, let’s be mature here. What man doesn’t like a big ol’ passionate kiss after a long day of work. This I’m still working on because I personally dislike mouth saliva with a passion, but I’ve seen how excited my hubby is to be home when he opens the door. The more I do it, the more I realize how connected I feel to my husband. Plus we can find much on love:
Song of Solomon 1:1-2 “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine.”
I personally don’t drink wine, but I do love kisses. I challenge you to greet your husband like this for a week. Let me know how it goes!
3. I ask my husband everyday before work, ” Is there anything you would like me to get done today?”.
Disclaimer: when I first started doing this, I was not happy because I was mad he actually wanted me to do something.. Don’t ask Ana if you don’t want an answer. This isn’t something God magically told me to do. This was something I knew would help develop my character as a wife and mother. Oh boy has it molded my way of serving him and others.
Titus 2:5 “They will teach them to be wise and pure, to take care of their homes, to be kind, and to be willing to serve their husbands.”
How counter cultural is this? I love that God’s word challenges the world and he is always right!
4. I pray over him while he is awake and when he is fast asleep.
Disclaimer: I have none for this one. I just feel as a helper I’m called to pray over the head of the household. For protection, wisdom, grace, patience, love, blessings over his work and to be strong in his faith when tempted and for my husband to always seek the Lord. We have to do good for our spouse.
Proverbs 31:12 “She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.”
Disclaimer: here’s a little something I have to disclose to make this a true statement. I, Ana Nelson, do not like snuggles. However I’ve come to realize that my husband does. As a woman I really would be ok with just holding hands BUT we will not go more than a two days without letting eachother know we love being together. Even when I didn’t “feel” like it. I know I know what a scandal! But what does the word have to say?
1 Corinthians 7:2-4 But sexual sin is a danger, so each man should enjoy his own wife, and each woman should enjoy her own husband. The husband should give his wife what she deserves as his wife. And the wife should give her husband what he deserves as her husband. The wife does not have power over her own body. Her husband has the power over her body. And the husband does not have power over his own body. His wife has the power over his body. Don’t refuse to give your bodies to each other. But you might both agree to stay away from sex for a while so that you can give your time to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not be able to tempt you in your weakness.
This was so hard for me to really understand. Especially in this coulture where we get offended at something like this. Truth is, God is smarter than you and I. He knows a man’s desires and we can possibly be the reason our husband’s sin in secret. I know in my marriage we’ve both sinned against eachother because of this. I’ve learned through these 5 things that they play a HUGE deal in my marriage. I am so thankful the Holy Spirit always leads me to challenge my human mind. The Holy Spirit always challenges my selfish desires. But what great rewards I’ve seen from listening to God’s word vs. my own human feelings.
So there you ladies go, 5 ways I serve my working husband and 5 disclaimers because I am far from perfect BUT I won’t let that be my excuse.
What are some ways you help your working husband?
Much love, Ana Nelson