To catch up on the last few weeks of this mini series you can start here.
This week I want to write and remind myself about two fruits that go hand in hand.
Peace & Patience
Everyone wants peace, that’s all we hear about in the news about peace in nations. Everyone want to be at peace with one another. No one wants patience, not with other nations. No one wants patience when it comes to having it with one another. Do see how they go together? When I’m patient with my husband, I understand him and the situation there for I think better and that leads to peace in our marriage. When I’m not patient with my husband, I am quick to anger and quick to start arguments. Leading us little to no peace.
Everyone wants peace, but peace without patience just doesn’t work.
In Galatians 5:22 patience and peace is given to us through the Holy Spirit. We are now able to have the gift of being at peace with our life, with our neighbors and through his one and only son Jesus we now have peace with God! Wow that’s beautiful. Now would you say God is peace? I would. I can also say he is patient. So patient that he waits for us to come to him and surrender our life. From our free will. He is patient and peaceful. But us humans or shall I say, Ana is not very peaceful or patient at times. Story time? Here we go.
Peace & Patience in my marriage:
One time my husband and I were talking and out of no where he exploded with rage at something I had said. Now this was a few days ago guys, so since I’m super spiritual I closed my eyes and prayed to God… to give me the strength to rip his eyes out! I was so angry!!! There was no peace here. I knew the right thing to do was to listen to the Holy Spirit (who by the way had already spoken to my heart on what to do and I ignored it) but I didn’t. The Holy Spirit guided my heart in a direction that needed patience. No way Jose, not today. The results of not obeying the spirits guidance to patience led to no peace. Later my husband and I agreed we both had no patience with eachother thus, concluding to no peace with eachother. Now rewind to our marriage before the gift of patience and peace when we didn’t have Jesus. This fight would of eventually faded but never been fixed to the root of it all. With out these gifts we really honestly don’t stand a chance against the enemy in our marriage. I honestly don’t know how my husband and I survived without God the first 4-5 years of our marriage. Thank you God for your patience with us. With me.
Peace & Patience in parenting:
After a long long day as the sun was setting I found myself miserably tired and annoyed. Anyone? Ok, it was my daughters bed time and since we put our daughters to bed I layed there in bed singing and they were interrupting my singing so I got upset and told them no more talking! How pitiful right? My oldest daughter in a sweet voice said, “mommy I…” Poor thing didn’t even finish saying what she wanted to say when I did it… I yelled. “Go to sleep now”. Ahh, I’m terrible I tell you. Right away I felt in my heart (the Holy Spirit) patience leads to peace. I felt terrible. She was quite and I said, ” what did you want to say?” Then she replied with the most heart breaking words any kid can put together.” I was just going to say good night and I love you”. Oh my heart. I always think on that when I want to lose my temper with them. That night. I had no patience with my daughter and that lead to my daughter having no peace in her heart. I had to apologize and we stayed up for a good 5 minutes. I hugged her as I apologized for my irrational emotions and she started singing that little song, ” the fruits are are spirit are love, joy, peace (she made sure to really stare at me when she said these) patience …..”. I laugh now but my way of parenting has changed drastically once Jesus came in my life and gave my husband and I the gift of patience that always leads to peace sooner or later.
Peace & Patience with others:
Last one, one time I was in line at the grocery store to pay my yummy chips. I had been thinking about my chips all day. My mouth waters as I type this. Now, let’s see if you guys know what store I’m talking about without pointing fingers. I was in a huge store with 20 cash registers and wouldn’t you know it there were only three open. So there I was mouth full of water, chips in hand, images of me swimming in these chips ran through my mind and this line just wouldn’t hurry up and to make matters worse the woman infront of me had two carts full of food.. How often do you see that?! I had no patience. The person behind me was sighing the whole time. Finally it was my turn and guess what?! The cash register busted and they had to close the lane. They opened a new one and I was next in line, I was so excited. So I got up put my Dorito dynamite spicy chips on the conveyer belt JUST to find out the cashier was going on brake. So they were trying to find the person who was going to replace her during her lunch. No one could find him. The person behind me kept cursing at the air and in my head I’m pretty sure I agreed. I had no patience and no peace… over chips how silly. Finally I did something I’m not one to do, I told the manager that this was bull fecal matter. All I wanted was CHIPS! Do you ladies want to know what happened? (Because Jesus cares for us he sometimes teaches us little lessons) the manager ended up being Christian and knew me… I just didn’t know her. She looked at me and said, “your the Tovar’s daughter, you know patience goes along way sweetheart. Don’t let the enemy steal your patience,your Joy, your gentleness and your peace over chips”. Insert embarrassing face here.
Believers have an obligation to “let the peace of God rule” in their hearts (Colossians 3:15). This means we have the choice either to trust God’s promises (letting His peace rule) or to rely on ourselves and reject the peace He offers. Jesus gave His disciples peace based on the truth that He has overcome the world (John 14:27; 16:33). Peace is a fruit of the Spirit, so, if we are allowing the Spirit of God to rule in our lives, we will experience His peace. To be spiritually minded brings life and peace, according to Romans 8:6.
Patience does not develop overnight. God’s power and goodness are crucial to the development of patience. Colossians 1:11 tells us that we are strengthened by Him to “great endurance and patience,” while James 1:3-4 encourages us to know that trials are His way of perfecting our patience. Our patience is further developed and strengthened by resting in God’s perfect will and timing, even in the face of evil men who “succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes” (Psalm 37:7). Our patience is rewarded in the end “because the Lord’s coming is near” (James 5:7-8). “The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him” (Lamentations 3:25). – chistian need to know article 2007
This one seems a little short but I can assure you I honestly didn’t know what more to write. I wish I could just tell you in person, that when we come to Jesus we give up our own ways. We are left with a guide The Holy Spirit who’s ministry is to sanctify us till the day Jesus returns. When we allow the spirit of God to work in us there is no room for works of the flesh. We become loving not hateful. We have joy not sadness. We have patience and not let our emotions determine our actions. We have peace not worry. We simply can not be woman of God and have no love, have no joy, have no peace and yes, even have no patience. We are all a masterpiece in progress and you know what? What a blessing that our painter on earth is the Holy spirits! Thank you lord, he knows I need to keep growing in the patience department and as I learn to obey/ practice/ exercise his gift of patience, peace will follow.
Much love, Ana Nelson