Being Married isn’t for the faint of heart, can we agree? What about adding a few little to that mix, how do we as wives balance out the time given to our children and our husbands? Who has God called us to Love first?
Today we have my incredible friend Amy from ““The Gilded Wife” with us with a blog on exactly this topic:
Amy is a devoted wife and mother with a passion for connecting with women in all walks of life. Her blog, The Gilded Wife encourages and empowers women to live a full, free, and fierce life according to God’s word. Her joy is found in the Lord and gives all the glory to Him. She enjoys traveling, is a lover of dark chocolate, and hopes to become a foster parent one day.
Please help me welcome my sweet friend Amy and her wisdom on marriage and Choosing to love her Husband over her children.
” This past weekend, my husband and I celebrated FIVE years of our crazy love. We hadn’t planned anything extravagant after being out of town without the boys the previous weekend.
I was already planning an evening with Netflix and a cup of hot tea – yes, tea. (Green or black tea with a splash of honey is my jam.)
While attempting to fold laundry and organize the basement, ( all while toys were being launched across the room) I heard a familiar song over the speakers. My husband had synced his phone to the basement radio to play the song I had walked down the aisle to. He even had a single rose in hand.
I couldn’t believe it.
He arranged for my sister-in-law to watch the boys; so off we went to celebrate, just him and I.
That evening, it occurred to me that we had been abusing “our time.” The time that is meant to strengthen us. Our marriage had been placed on the back burner for whenever convenient. That time couples require to mature as a spouse and a parent.
Becoming a wife also comes much responsibility.
Ephesians 5:22-23 states to “submit yourselves onto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of his wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…”
And husbands are to mirror a love for their wives just as Christ has for the church. When Jesus calls wives to be submissive, that is not to be considered a weakness but rather meekness. Defined as being humble or righteous: King David, Paul the Apostle, Moses and Jesus Christ himself were all described as being “meek.” Although, it is a rare virtue among those in an aggressive and over-bearing world, the Lord says, “blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.” Matthew 5:5
As I strive to become better at my wifely duties: to be meek, obedient, tender-hearted, loyal, respectful, kind, and careful not to let my funny bone deteriorate, I am simply doing my best. Over the years, I can see where my husband may feel devalued while having battled for my attention and/or affection. I truly believe that a marriage sets the tone in the household. When we disagree, our children can sense the tension and unfortunately, converts into hostile parenting.
Ultimately, our children perceive us as primary role models. How I speak, my mannerisms and the respect I show towards my husband (and vice versa) is how they will ultimately treat others, possibly their future spouse. I hope that they will turn to prayer to help sustain both their marriage and families.
This is why I choose to love my husband above my children; so that they may respect, trust and see our love as mighty and intimate as Christ’s love for the church.
As a mother, continue to extend a hand of guidance, love and prepare them for the challenging road ahead. And as a wife, lend your obedient ear, faithful hands and steadfast heart to the one He created for you. After all, you are on the same team..