The air is crisp, the wind is cold, the trees are bare and the pine trees gather little specks of what seems like white little miracles… with that comes buggies, colds, the flu and apparently many viruses my family loves to collect one after the other.
As a mom I find it so hard to feel at peace when my children are sick and to be honest sometim- many times it gets the best of me and I get frustrated (I’ve shared this on my Instagram) and it’s hard for me to baby my children and it’s not even their fault. It’s this anger within me because we go from a flu to a cold to a virus that doesn’t give me a break to gather myself before dealing with whatever is next. It all hits me like a pile of bricks and I just explode! I know, I know, you’re probably thinking to yourself, “ok she’s rediculous, it’s just a flu. They are kids get over yourself and take care of them”. Yeah I know, I say this to myself all the time. Anyone else, or is it just me? You gotta understand this, I’m not mad at my girls for getting sick. I’m mad at the sickness taking my daughters health and making life uncomfortable. First world problems? Yeah.
So, how can we deal with the sick season with grace? Many of you probably are sick yourselfs or have a house full of sick babes and want to rip your hair out. Some of you are not even going to finish reading this because it’s not something you deal with….but for those of us who struggle I wanted to share how I deal with it and what I remind myself in this season.
- It’s part of life: we all get sick so we have to understand and remind ourselves that we’re not a victim to it.
- Gentleness: I get it, you’re frustrated but many times I stare at my babes and wonder why I cause them more pain with my roughness while they are all ready so sick and hurting. As a mama we are their safe place and we can’t forget that based on a season of sickness.
- Compassion: I must admit I lack compassion and it’s not at all close to what God calls all his children to be. Remember they are children and if they could take care of themselves… there wouldn’t be a need for you, mom. They are littles in need of a hug and love even more so when feeling down.
- It will soon pass: like all things, it will pass. It’s not forever (though it might seem like it) and you missed the opportunity to show love.
- It’s not about you: sorry to break it to you but when your home is sick it’s not about how they are making your life miserable because you can’t get anything done, it’s about serving them and helping them get better… everything else can wait.
- More of Jesus, less of me: I’ve found it to be amazingly refreshing to read my bible when I’m frustrated, what an Idea right? Yeah kidding, we all know Jesus is the answer to all things including giving us peace when we don’t have it and clarity.
- Opportunity to serve: when my family is sick, instead of feeling like they turned my day around, I have to remind myself that it’s just another opportunity to serve them like Jesus. Home made soup anyone?
Matthew 7:12 “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.
Galatians 6:10 So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.
1 Peter 3:8 Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.
So these are the things I continually go back to when my selfish mom comes out, with frustration and anger because my day didn’t go as planned. I’m telling you moms, I’m rediculous and in need of correction from the Holy Spirit daily to remind myself that I am a human who needs grace and forgiveness. My family is my ministry and they are not my burden when they are sick, my wicked heart is and my mind are when I don’t apply JESUS to it all.
I hope you all have a great rest of the year filled with love, patience, grace, hospitality, compassion and health. Off I go, to disinfect for the glory of God.