I was sitting waiting for my girls to get out of school when I heard two mothers taking.
I’ll just be honest I was listening to their rather loud conversation and it went something like this:
Mom 1: ugh I hate when they get out of school, why can’t school be longer?
Mom 2: I could use wine right now. Just to be able to deal with these little “a**holes”.
I was not shocked considering many women have shared their misery with me at some point or another in conversations towards their children.
Here’s the part that makes me look like a “goody mom” because I can’t stand mothers who find children to be a burden and take motherhood as if it had no effect. Could they have been playing? Maybe. But scripture says that what’s in our hearts, comes out of our mouths and we act on it.
Can we be real?
When did it become ok to do so little as a mother and be ok with it?
When did it become permissible to call our children by terrible names? I’ve heard mothers call their children blasphemous names.
Psalm 127:3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
When did it become just “ok” to do the minimum and expect a gold star as a mother? I know many people don’t agree with me because we live in a world that allows such little effort to come with high applause.
Personally I want to give my all to my children, my best, give them my highest effort. That requires doing more than just patting them on the head, more than a 5 min conversation, it requires to put that phone down. To turn that TV off, to make friends your last priority, to get off our bums, to let go of life wasting habits and move and play and run and be healthy so we can give our all!
Proverbs 31:25-30 Strength and dignity are her clothing…She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” …
It starts with us Mama, I’ve had enough of hearing other people praise the minimum… do your best.
My best and your best look different but do your BEST!
I don’t want a gold star for getting through the day, I want my children to remember me for being a hard-working, passionate, loving, hospitable, caring, loving wife and Jesus lover. To be remembered like Timothy’s mother.
2 Timothy 1:5 I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well.
We should be so consumed with our calling as mother that we don’t have time to think about the bad in our lives because we’re to busy loving what we DO have. We are to busy being homemakers.
Titus 2:3-5–“[Older women] are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”
That’s what God has called us to do.
You’re not patient? Your children make you angry? It’s ok to feel these emotions but it’s not ok to stay there.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools.
Ephesians 4:2 With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love. This means your children too.
What will you choose?