Motherhood is a gift not a burden 

I was sitting waiting for my girls to get out of school when I heard two mothers taking.

I’ll just be honest I was listening to their rather loud conversation and it went something like this:

Mom 1: ugh I hate when they get out of school, why can’t school be longer?

Mom 2: I could use wine right now. Just to be able to deal with these little “a**holes”.

I was not shocked considering many women have shared their misery with me at some point or another in conversations towards their children.

Here’s the part that makes me look like a “goody mom” because I can’t stand mothers who find children to be a burden and take motherhood as if it had no effect. Could they have been playing? Maybe. But scripture says that what’s in our hearts, comes out of our mouths and we act on it. 

Can we be real?
When did it become ok to do so little as a mother and be ok with it?
When did it become permissible to call our children by terrible names? I’ve heard mothers call their children blasphemous names.

Psalm 127:3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

When did it become just “ok” to do the minimum and expect a gold star as a mother? I know many people don’t agree with me because we live in a world that allows such little effort to come with high applause.

Personally I want to give my all to my children, my best, give them my highest effort. That requires doing more than just patting them on the head, more than a 5 min conversation, it requires to put that phone down. To turn that TV off, to make friends your last priority, to get off our bums, to let go of life wasting habits and move and play and run and be healthy so we can give our all!

Proverbs 31:25-30 Strength and dignity are her clothing…She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” …

It starts with us Mama, I’ve had enough of hearing other people praise the minimum… do your best.

My best and your best look different but do your BEST! 

I don’t want a gold star for getting through the day, I want my children to remember me for being a hard-working, passionate, loving, hospitable, caring, loving wife and Jesus lover. To be remembered like Timothy’s mother.

 2 Timothy 1:5 I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well.

We should be so consumed with our calling as mother that we don’t have time to think about the bad in our lives because we’re to busy loving what we DO have. We are to busy being homemakers.

Titus 2:3-5–“[Older women] are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”

That’s what God has called us to do.

You’re not patient? Your children make you angry? It’s ok to feel these emotions but it’s not ok to stay there.

Ecclesiastes 7:9 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools.

Ephesians 4:2 With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love. This means your children too.

What will you choose?

6 thoughts on “Motherhood is a gift not a burden ”

  1. I adore this post — so much TRUTH. I’ve been following you in instagram for awhile now and you’re quite the inspiration! I always look forward to reading your perspective about marriage and motherhood. SO EXCITED to find out that you blog! God bless you pretty lady! YOU ARE AWESOME!


  2. Thanks for this, truly. My husband and I got married a little over a year ago, but the first question we keep getting asked is when are the children coming? Between starting new jobs and moving to a new place, the thought of children DOES seem burdensome at times. We both agreed that children should never feel heavy or burdensome, so we choose to wait to be parents. At least for now. We just know we want to give them our best efforts when they do come around.

    What this post does is encourage me to, like you said, do my best in EVERY area of my life. That includes that day I get to be a mom. You’re right, it’s not ok to do the bare minimum, but thank God for the grace to continue to reach our full potential and continue doing our best!


  3. Ana, this is an excellent post for born again Christian’s in our walk with God while the Holy Spirit conforms us into the image of Christ. Yet, for the unregenerate, the only thing we can do is preach to them the gospel of good news (the kingdom of God) and pray that God will convict their heart so they can also be born again, regenerate Christians. Only through the gospel you can transform lives. But, giving non-Christian’s (the un-regenerate) moral advice will not change their wicked heart. They may change on the outside by taking your advice and applying to their lives you advice but what difference does it make if they still have a wicked heart and are void of the spirit. As a Christian i love your blogs and enjoy reading them but for non- christians always remember preach the gospel which can transform lives and change their hearts of stone into hearts of flesh (Ezequiel 36:26)Once they have this new heart and the Holy Spirit then the Holy Spirit will empower them to live God honouring lives. Preach the Gospel Ana, Preach the good news of the kingdom of God so people can repent, put their faith and Christ, and overall start winning souls to the kingdom of God.


    1. Absolutely agree, I have many posts about the gospel and motherhood for those who don’t follow the Lord. I wrote this one for my Christian mama’s already in the walk. Thank you for your good words


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