The mother of all series: Heydy

Hi Guys! My name is Heydy. I am the face and blogger behind Raising Jay and Abel.

Raising Jay and Abel is a life & style blog, documenting and showcasing my life as a young mother to my three sweet boys, Jayden,

Abel, and Isaiah.

My blog provides a brief, but very real, insight of my personal experience through teen pregnancy.

When Ana from Shefoundgrace asked me if I was interested in contributing to her new motherhood series. I was all for it.

3 Things Motherhood has Taught me

Much like Ana, I became a mother at the age of 16.

I recently celebrated a decade of motherhood this past September.

Which means I have had 10 years of mom experience under my belt. Yet, with each child, I’ve learned so many different things about myself and motherhood.


As a teenager, I was not a compassionate person. However, after having my first, compassion is what I yearned for the most. Someone to understand the situation I was in and to not judge me by it. Being a teen mom always brought stares and questions. Now, I try my best to listen first instead of judge. Showing compassion to other mamas who may otherwise not receive it.


Being strong doesn’t always have to mean physical strength. Strength to me means waking up everyday to be a mother to my three children. Emotional and mental strength during motherhood is a must.


On that note, knowing when to ask for help is also a form of strength. Weakness in motherhood is probably the number one thing I’ve learned to accept. Accepting that I am not a robot and that calling for strength when you are weak is ok.

“Isaiah 40:29: He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak”

“Proverbs 31:25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come”

Learning to give myself grace was the hardest thing for me. Even now, mom guilt is present.

I’m always learning something about what being a mom really is. I’m looking forward to what other lessons are in store for me.



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