Quitting the rat race and how to be happy

Is it just me or does the whole completion of life make you gag?

Like, how crazy is it that we live in a world where we compete to see who has what? We legit get in debt with stuff we should not be buying to up one someone. That’s crazy to me. It always has been.

Luke 12:15And he said to them, “Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.”

This is a bible verse I saw my parents live by growing up. I don’t know if you know this but I was born in Mexico, I came to the USA as an immigrant at age 5. My parents brought nothing with them but the clothes on their back. They left everything behind to start new. When they came to the USA it was hard but they came to know Jesus here.

We were very, very poor. My dad worked two jobs and back in the day $5 was min wage. We were poor. Like… sleep on the floor poor, like I had one pair of sandals poor, as in my father looked for shoes in the garbage poor. As in we prayed for food because my fathers two jobs weren’t enough poor. God always provided for us.

Wanna know something crazy?

I never heard my parents say… “we are poor”, “we can’t afford that.” Or covet.

I honestly had no idea we were poor.

My parents always lives frugally and it’s something that I grew up with.

Something my mother always told me was “the more you have, the more you’ll want”. And it seems to be true here in America.

Proverbs 28:25A greedy man stirs up strife, but the one who trusts in the Lord will be enriched.

I guess that’s why I don’t hold on to material possessions because to me… they hold little to no sentimental value. My husband jokes that he can’t buy me anything because I won’t give it value, but I don’t care much for material possessions.

We recently moved from the home my youngest baby was born in and I had no problem leaving it behind. I got so many messages asking if I was going to be sad and that didn’t even cross my mind. We had a bigger plan for our family and leaving this behind was just part of it. My house could burn down and I would be upset over losing a roof to live under but not the stuff inside or even the memories.

Matthew 6:19-24“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

I often get asked if my husband and I have always been “well off” <<< not sure what they mean. Or if “now that you have land are you finally happy?”.

My husband and I lived in a basement, we owned a 1995ish vehicle that kept braking down. We could not afford our first daughters birth. The state never helped us. Yet we never complained. We were content and we worked hard to get by. Glory to God for always providing!

Fast forward 11 years and we now live in a comfortable home on 10 acres and paid off all our debts and with 3 kiddos. I was happy then, I’m happy now. If you were to ask my husband how many times I was mad/cried/upset over so and so having more or not fair or ugh why do they get this and not us kinda attitude he will tell you never. That’s not me. Never has never will. I never bugged my husband for a bigger house. I never was mad over not having a nicer house. I don’t understand people who can’t plan their life unless they have that bigger home. I’d rather have a very small home but live in peace and contentment than to live always having everything and always wanting more. I know there are people who have grown up with everything and are still humble! Those are some rare jems.

Proverbs 16:8Better is a little with righteousness than great revenues with injustice.

Work with what you have and God will bless your hard work and contentment.

At what point do we stop and realize that Jesus is coming back and all the stuff we have, all the stuff we show off, all the stuff we covet… we can’t take with us? When is it enough? When do we stop wanting to up one another? When do we quit the rat race?

Now, I’m not saying not to want better things in life, or that it’s a sin but out desires should be to have a better quality of life than quantity. And in that, how can we use that to glorify God?

We moved to land because we wanted a different childhood for our children. We wanted to eventually bring my husband home because of his MS and for that we needed land to make a small business. To be self sustained. So we moved, we didn’t want more, we wanted something different. We wanted quality. If we ever had to move, sure I’d be sad to not be able to bring my husband home but it’s a house… it doesn’t determine my happiness.

Keeping up with the Jones… don’t fall for it. Do what you can, where you are. Use what you have. Be content and pray. God always opens a door for those who can be trusted with little.

My parents? My father is now the right hand man in a company he was so graciously transferred to by word 15 years ago. We were able to move to Washington state from California… blindly (where he had two jobs) to only needed 1 job to support our family PLUS buy a home they are almost done paying off. All in two years after we moved to Washington state back in 1999. God placed a better quality of life by moving by faith to a whole other state where English was spoken and my parents had no idea how to speak it (or me). A better quality of life, not quantity. What did my parents do with their quality of life here? They became pastors.

Guys, we can not be playing the rat race and expect to win. Someone will always have more. Trust me when I say that it’s better to live simply and humbly than to be in debt and un-happy.

I’m not sure why I felt led to share this topic but I sure hope it helps us all to keep our eyes on the important things:




Helping those in need

Preaching the gospel

Enjoying nature


For those who are all set up:

1 Timothy 6:17-19As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is truly life.

We’re not rich by any means but we’re not in need of anything; therefore we use what we have to serve God. Now that we have land I’m curious to see how we can use it for his glory. In our last home we always took in people, we made many memories of long nights and wonderful dinner filled with people. Our door we’re always open. And it won’t be any different here.

Who cares who has more, focus on what you have. Focus on your life and how you can thank God for it. Focus on how you can plan for a better quality of life with guidance and wisdom from God not an earthy rush to satisfy your want. You are you. No one else. Be happy for those you love and don’t yearn for what isn’t yours. Stop wasting time and start living time in the now with what you have.

Quit the rat race, you’ll be glad you did.

Daddy enjoying the cold weather with Sadie

9 thoughts on “Quitting the rat race and how to be happy”

  1. So beautiful!!! I have been struggling with this big time. I always want more or I am the one that can’t start her life yet until she has this or that. Thank you. I grew up with everything. I never had to experience the without until I was in my early 20s, and I’m only 26 now. So, really I’ve only maybe struggled a handful of times. Most with paying rent because I was not smart with my money. Or the time we moved across the country and didn’t plan on where we were going to live and how expensive it was to live in hotels. Ended up taking 2 months and half the time we lived in our SUV, sleeping in a Walmart parking lot. I can say this though, God humbles you, and its so easy to forget that when you have everything. I Thank God for you, Ana, for reminding me to be humble.


  2. A good friend of mine who invited me to an annual Mother/Daughter Tea Party this past Saturday. As others were arriving , The ladies at my table & I were admiring the clear skies and sun after a week of very much need rain. Thank God! When everyone arrived we opened up with a prayer and introduced ourselves . Everyone was dressed in their Sunday’s best , we ate finger food, and sipped tea.The children were playing red light green light and were enjoying the outdoors . Life just felt very simply ! As Chelsea stopped to say how she appreciated how everyone was engaged with one another, she talked about herself & possibly others not living in the now. We are constantly worry about what our next move is going to be, which is ok to have plans , but can be too much sometimes . We don’t stop to enjoy what is right in front of our faces . From the beautiful weather, to sipping tea, laughter , watching the children be children, and getting to know someone without a lens in front of our face. The life God has given us is the most beautiful gift we can ever ask for . It brings be back to what you were saying . Life is not a competition and materialistic possessions are not what life is all about. Social media, clothes, the newest phone , bigger houses and cars are not going to feel our void. These possessions just consume us and leave us wanting more. I myself have found myself stressing for now reason and thinking wait I don’t need anything I don’t have plans , why am I stressing ?! I stop a pray and thank God for what I do have . Sorry for such a long message but thank you for your thoughts . I wake up daily and check my emails and enjoy coming across yours . I believe everyone can take from what you say. God bless and have a good day.


    1. That’s simply amazing to hear because you don’t hear that anymore. You are so so right about life not being about possessions and yet we do that all the time. I feel, like you, thankful that I can check my heart and I have God to always point me the right way.


  3. Beautiful. So glad you shared. This opened my eyes a bit. I’ve never been the materialistic type, but lately I’ve felt pressured to have this or that bc someone else has it, or I “feel” as if I should just have it by now bc of my age. Sounds silly even saying this out loud..
    I obviously needed to read your story today. This will help me to think wisely with the money God blesses me to earn at work. I should invest more & just be grateful for what I have. I shouldn’t spend money so carelessly. Wow.. this was really for me.
    Thank you!


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